Should I have left it alone and kept quiet? I came out as gay to my adult kids last week. Age 61 married 15 years, divorced for 20. I feel so guilty for ruining their lives by living a lie.

Yes. You should have left it alone and kept quiet. You just did the equivalent of joining the Confederate Army in 1865 or the German Army in 1945 immediately before their defeat . Man, what an unfortunate choice of timing. 1971 to 1991 yes. 2024 no. Just NO. The whole Gay thing was a doomed trend because, as you know, the openly Gay men are only the tip of a huge huge HUGE iceberg of closeted Gay men. The entire Democratic Gay era is coming to a very abrupt end. If you have any sense at ALL you will immediately check yourself into the psychiatric ward of your local hospital for about a week or two because, you just suffered a slight nervous breakdown. If you are too afraid of being a psychiatric patient then talk to your general practitioner about the possibility of your children believing that you have suffered a very minor stroke, brain 🧠 seizure or eschemia. Backpedal like crazy and get the HELL back into the LIE you were living because you should feel more guilty about revealing the truth. Gay men are discovering that the greatest part of men who will have homosexual sex with them are Straight married men and are NEVER COMING OUT OF THE CLOSET. And, worse still, most of the younger generations coming of legal age for consent are NEVER going to touch the Gay identity with a ten foot pole. The vast majority of men were effectively driven into the closet by the tortures and murders of millions of Gay men during the Inquisition and the centuries of being imprisoned and beaten to death and endlessly persecuted;and, until a cultural reversal equally as big as Constantine the Great outlawing homosexuality and paganism throughout the Roman Empire in 321 AD and simultaneously making civilisation homophobic and heteronormative occurs and we all do it TOGETHER it just ain't fucking going to happen! You are like the last Japanese soldier who has been shipwrecked alone on a little desert island 🏝 from 1945 to 1985 for forty years and hasn't heard that World War Two ended forty years ago. They have to go find his elderly Japanese Commander and fly him out from Japan to talk you down. Dude. The war is OVER and the Gays LOST. You had a total brainfart when you told your kids that. If your doctor won't tell you how to explain this medically then it's time to find a new doctor. Eschemic incident or mini-stroke or some wrong medication made you hallucinate HARD last week.